1. We trust too easily and we don’t trust enough.
The children of narcissists are taught that they live in a frightening world – one where love is rarely unconditional. In the early stages of healing, the sight of healthy love and affection always looks slightly suspect to us. On the other hand, the sight of toxic love is all too familiar and feels like a comfort zone. We trust in the monsters disguised as saviors far more easily than we do those who offer us a stable version of love.
Dangerous people represent the same challenges that we underwent in early childhood, so to our subconscious, they ironically feel a lot less frightening. The trick is not to trust too easily or not trusting at all: the balance is found in trusting ourselves. Until we’ve learned to grieve and heal our core wounds from childhood, we won’t be able to trust our inner voice. We’ll continue to ignore the instincts that could save our lives or pre-judge someone who may want the best for us; that is why healing is so essential on our journey to self-love and love.
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Is your spouse or partner perpetually unable to apologize when they do something wrong? Do they blame you for anything negative that happens to them? Are they stingy with money? Do they have grand ideas and big unattainable dreams? Most importantly, is everything all about them?
If you are reading this article and answered “yes” to any of the questions above, chances are that you have recognized signs of narcissism in your spouse or partner’s behaviors. Although this article is not going to reference official psychological diagnoses, there are common traits that people with narcissism and narcissistic tendencies demonstrate. The focus of this article will be on the traits listed below and real life examples of narcissistic behavior.
Nobody likes a person, who is full of themselves and does not care about anyone else. But there is even something worse than a narcissist – a covert narcissist. You cannot even notice them until they have destructed everything.
Narcissists can cause a lot of damage, especially when you do not know exactly how to deal with them. They are great manipulators and usually get what they want. They can turn the situation against you with a blink of an eye and make you the one, who needs to apologize in the end.
Why covert narcissists are so much worse than regular ones, is because you cannot see their actions through. They might seem like the nicest and friendliest people ever, but when you start trusting them or counting on them, you are the one who is going to get hurt.
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Have you ever wondered if there are gender differences in narcissists? Well, I wondered that very thing recently so I did a little research. Turns out, narcissists are more alike than different regardless of gender. That said there are a few specific differences in the behaviors of narcissistic men and women.
We’re Only Human
Before we get started on this topic, if you’re unsure of what a narcissist is, please read Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) first. One caveat I’d like to mention is that all human beings have narcissism in them. Normally, it’s a healthy amount that helps them accomplish goals, have self-esteem and confidence to work, try new hobbies, and have healthy relationships. It’s when the narcissism is overdeveloped in a person that it becomes a disorder. I always like to remind people of this fact because it tells us that some of the behaviors we see in a narcissist, we see in ourselves in small (healthy) doses.
Remember that the narcissist will find supply not only in his spouse but friends, and business associates as well. That’s why it’s good to recognize the behaviors and spot when you’re being targeted and used for the narcissist’s supply. In this post, I show examples of the behaviors in domestic relationships but some of these could be applied to friendships and business partnerships etc.
An ageing population is leading to a growing number of people living with dementia. Dementia is an umbrella term for a group of symptoms including memory impairment, confusion, and loss of ability to carry out everyday activities.
Alzheimer’s disease is the most common form of dementia, and causes a progressive decline in brain health.
Dementia affects more than 425,000 Australians. It is the second-ranked cause of death overall, and the leading cause in women.
The main risk factor for dementia is older age. Around 30% of people aged over 85 live with dementia. Genetic influences also play a role in the onset of the disease, but these are stronger for rarer types of dementia such as early-onset Alzheimer’s disease.
Although we can’t change our age or genetic profile, there are nevertheless several lifestyle changes we can make that will reduce our dementia risk.
Dementia seems to be in the news all the time at the moment and there is no question that the number of people suffering with this problem is increasing as the elderly population steadily increases.
However, all is not doom and gloom – although it certainly does get more common with age, four out of five people aged 80 and over still have no significant memory problems.
About half of people who develop dementia have the condition Alzheimer’s disease. This occurs when the numbers of nerve fibres in the brain drop as the brain shrinks, and ‘clumps’ of protein build up in the brain affecting how nerve impulses pass through brain cells.
There can be an inherited tendency towards developing this but it can also occur without any obvious risk factors being present – however for many people, altering their lifestyle can reduce or delay the likelihood of it developing.
The second most common kind of dementia is called vascular dementia – caused by many tiny strokes blocking off the small blood vessels in the brain over a long period of time. This type of dementia can be slowed down or prevented with some simple lifestyle changes.
To help cut your risk of developing dementia, follow these simple tips:
Nobody wants to see their loved ones forget who they are. It’s a very hard road to take on both the patient and their loved ones. While we can’t stop all cases of Alzheimer’s or Dementia, there are certain steps we can take to avoid going down that road.
One of the biggest steps you can take is to take care of your whole body now. We talk more about diet, supplements, and exercises that help the body avoid degeneration in this article.
We’re going to be talking about keeping your brain in high gear in this article so you know what to do to keep sharp.
Scientists have long thought that keeping your brain healthy with brain training exercises is one of the best ways to know your state of mind. It keeps your mind working well, forming new neuro-connections, and preserving older connections.
It also gives you a chance to notice if something is going on. If your daily puzzle becomes challenging, you will know to get checked out. From there, you can work with your doctor to do the medications and supplements that can slow and even stop the damage.
As you get older, it’s natural to worry about developing dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. Or you may fear having to care for a partner or parent who has one of those debilitating neurological disorders.
The good news is that about a third of Alzheimer’s cases are preventable, according to a spate of recently published research. Rather than drugs, lifestyle changes offer the best hope of avoiding these illnesses, including some moves that may surprise you.
“There are a whole lot of things we can specifically address quite effectively through lifestyle changes and practice,” says James E. Galvin, the director of the Comprehensive Center for Brain Health at Florida Atlantic University and author of a 2017 paper in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society on the science of Alzheimer’s prevention.
“It doesn’t necessarily require medications. There is nutrition, exercise, diabetes, cholesterol, sleep, mindfulness, and attitude.”
If you’re worried about developing dementia, you’ve probably memorized the list of things you should do to minimize your risk—eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, getting adequate sleep, and keeping your mind and soul engaged. In addition, some of the drugs you may be taking to help you accomplish those things could increase your risk of dementia. In two separate large population studies, both benzodiazepines (a category that includes medications for anxiety and sleeping pills) and anticholinergics (a group that encompasses medications for allergies and colds, depression, high blood pressure, and incontinence) were associated with an increased risk of dementia in people who used them for longer than a few months. In both cases, the effect increased with the dose of the drug and the duration of use.
Dementia care is daunting, but may not be as challenging as you would expect. Whether you care for a parent or senior loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or another type of dementia, or are a senior care professional approaching your role with some knowledge — the right attitude is crucial to success.
Educating yourself about dementia and maintaining a positive but realistic attitude allows you to maintain an element of control as a caregiver. It can take the sting out of surprising challenges you encounter and also improve the care that you provide.
Here are some important facts to consider when approaching your role caring for someone with dementia: