She’s extremely concerned about her physical appearance-make up, clothing, hair, and nails must be near perfection. This is all about snaring her supply. He’s extremely concerned with his income level, work position and is not afraid to be aggressive to achieve his career goals.
She begins her relationships with men, in the same way, extremely accommodating and supportive. If he has children, she’ll nurture and care for them while he’s working. She’s a domestic goddess. What happens later though? She begins to chip away at her man’s dreams, goals and his overall person. She also, lessens her domestic contributions or forfeits relationship promises. He is less likely to give up his time to support her goals, career pursuits or domestic responsibilities. Even in the beginning, he will place his goals and career above hers. He’ll be charming about it, but he will not be a supportive house husband.
He must be in control almost every minute. If he can’t control the outcome of most everything in his life, including his wife, girlfriend or mistress—he will flip out and have a tantrum. She is willing to forfeit control for the rewards she will gain from her supply.
She uses her children as small maids and butlers. Children to the female narcissist are not much more than little servants for her to utilize to get out of her domestic responsibilities. Narc Men have little use for underage children. In their view, small children are useless and worse, compete for supply. As the children reach adulthood, the narcissist father will attempt to use them as a means to his end or as an extension of himself.
She is a drama queen. In relationships, she will be the one to call the police, make false reports. She has no qualms about taking her partner’s/husband’s reputation and dragging it through the mud publicly. He is cool, collected and remains in control of himself while spreading lies about his partner/wife.