9 Ways Children Of Narcissistic Parents Love Differently

1. We trust too easily and we don’t trust enough.

The children of narcissists are taught that they live in a frightening world – one where love is rarely unconditional. In the early stages of healing, the sight of healthy love and affection always looks slightly suspect to us. On the other hand, the sight of toxic love is all too familiar and feels like a comfort zone. We trust in the monsters disguised as saviors far more easily than we do those who offer us a stable version of love.

Dangerous people represent the same challenges that we underwent in early childhood, so to our subconscious, they ironically feel a lot less frightening. The trick is not to trust too easily or not trusting at all: the balance is found in trusting ourselves. Until we’ve learned to grieve and heal our core wounds from childhood, we won’t be able to trust our inner voice. We’ll continue to ignore the instincts that could save our lives or pre-judge someone who may want the best for us; that is why healing is so essential on our journey to self-love and love.

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Partnered With A Narcissist? 5 Reasons I’m Not Waiting For Change

Is your spouse or partner perpetually unable to apologize when they do something wrong? Do they blame you for anything negative that happens to them? Are they stingy with money? Do they have grand ideas and big unattainable dreams? Most importantly, is everything all about them?

If you are reading this article and answered “yes” to any of the questions above, chances are that you have recognized signs of narcissism in your spouse or partner’s behaviors. Although this article is not going to reference official psychological diagnoses, there are common traits that people with narcissism and narcissistic tendencies demonstrate. The focus of this article will be on the traits listed below and real life examples of narcissistic behavior.

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13 Signs of A Covert Narcissist; A Special Kind of Mind Game!

Nobody likes a person, who is full of themselves and does not care about anyone else. But there is even something worse than a narcissist – a covert narcissist. You cannot even notice them until they have destructed everything.

Narcissists can cause a lot of damage, especially when you do not know exactly how to deal with them. They are great manipulators and usually get what they want. They can turn the situation against you with a blink of an eye and make you the one, who needs to apologize in the end.

Why covert narcissists are so much worse than regular ones, is because you cannot see their actions through. They might seem like the nicest and friendliest people ever, but when you start trusting them or counting on them, you are the one who is going to get hurt.

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5 Key Gender Differences In Narcissists

Have you ever wondered if there are gender differences in narcissists? Well, I wondered that very thing recently so I did a little research. Turns out, narcissists are more alike than different regardless of gender. That said there are a few specific differences in the behaviors of narcissistic men and women.

We’re Only Human

Before we get started on this topic, if you’re unsure of what a narcissist is, please read Narcissistic Personality Disorder  (NPD) first. One caveat I’d like to mention is that all human beings have narcissism in them. Normally, it’s a healthy amount that helps them accomplish goals, have self-esteem and confidence to work, try new hobbies, and have healthy relationships. It’s when the narcissism is overdeveloped in a person that it becomes a disorder. I always like to remind people of this fact because it tells us that some of the behaviors we see in a narcissist, we see in ourselves in small (healthy) doses.

Remember that the narcissist will find supply not only in his spouse but friends, and business associates as well. That’s why it’s good to recognize the behaviors and spot when you’re being targeted and used for the narcissist’s supply. In this post, I show examples of the behaviors in domestic relationships but some of these could be applied to friendships and business partnerships etc.

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11 Manipulative Ways Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths Sabotage Their Victims (Part 1)

Narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths can inflict long-lasting damage on their victims. Their emotional and verbal abuse, combined with their cruel, persistent attempts at sabotage, can even drive their victims to self-destruction and suicide. For part one of this series, here are five ways these covert saboteurs can infiltrate your life and attempt to destroy it:

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Are You A Narcissist Magnet? Here’s How To Find Out…

Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) generally believe that the world revolves around them. This condition is characterized by a lack of ability to empathize with others and a desire to keep the focus on themselves at all times. – Psychology Today

The chances are that you’ve met, or perhaps been acquainted with, someone with narcissistic tendencies. If you have, the odds are that the relationship wasn’t a very fruitful one.

It’s important to understand what narcissism is and isn’t; specifically, the difference between someone with a narcissistic disorder (i.e. NPD) and someone who displays narcissistic characteristics.

NPD is an actual psychological disorder, and recognized as such by the mental health community.Narcissism is “a less extreme version of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissism involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness, power motives and vanity – a love of mirrors.”

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The 7 things narcissists are most afraid of.

I was actually going to try to post funny search terms again, but alas, they were just not funny, so I nixed that idea.  However, I did find one that inspired me to write this post:

what 6 things are narcissist most scared of

It’s a good question.  Are narcissists afraid of anything? You bet they are, and there are 7 things that scare them silly, not just 6.

1. Abandonment and rejection.

Narcissists can’t stand being rejected or abandoned.   That’s why they fly into rages and punish and threaten you if you threaten to leave them, and love bomb you if you do manage to get away.  To reject a narcissist means you are rejecting the false self they have so carefully constructed to impress you.  To reject that false self negates their entire reason for existing, since whatever true self they may have left is completely inaccessible to them and the false self cannot survive on its own; it’s completely dependent on the approval and attention of others, who it feeds from like a vampire.  When you reject a narcissist they are forced to confront their own emptiness and nothing scares them more than that.  They will fight tooth and nail to avoid it, even if it means they have to destroy you in the process.

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These are the 7 things that terrify narcissists to their core

It’s a good question.  Are narcissists afraid of anything? You bet they are, and there are 7 things that terrify them to their core. Here they are:

1. Abandonment and rejection.

Narcissists can’t stand being rejected or abandoned.   That’s why they fly into rages and punish and threaten you if you threaten to leave them, and love bomb you if you do manage to get away.  To reject a narcissist means you are rejecting the false self they have so carefully constructed to impress you.  To reject that false self negates their entire reason for existing, since whatever true self they may have left is completely inaccessible to them and the false self cannot survive on its own; it’s completely dependent on the approval and attention of others, who it feeds from like a vampire.  When you reject a narcissist they are forced to confront their own emptiness and nothing scares them more than that.  They will fight tooth and nail to avoid it, even if it means they have to destroy you in the process.

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The Only Two Things You Need in Order to Stop Attracting Narcissists

A lot of readers said they thought it was the right thing to do, and some shared that they do it because they want to make sure they never attract another narcissist into their lives.

These are common beliefs after finally leaving a relationship with a narcissist.  I get it.  After all the lies and betrayal and trying to gain back some sense of normalcy, the last thing anyone would want is to find themselves in yet another toxic and dysfunctional relationship.

But, in truth, there is only so much you can learn about narcissism.  There may be thousands of blogs out there on the topic, but at a certain point, there’s really nothing new to learn.  The science has been done, the behavior has been analyzed, it’s been described in many different languages, and the internet is over-saturated with content revolving around narcissism.

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The Toxic Attraction Between an Empath & a Narcissist.

We know that “narcissist” has become a bit of a buzzword recently, and some folks are quick to apply it to an ex-lover or family member or friend. While awareness of this concept is healthy, so is remembering that it is, in a mental health context, a serious condition that shouldn’t be applied to someone you’re mad at. 

I am an empath. I discovered I was an empath after I got involved in a very deep and highly destructive relationship with a narcissist.

I am writing this article from the perspective of an empath; however, I would love to read a perspective from the opposite side if there are any narcissists that would like to offer their views on this topic.

Through writing about the empath personality type I have connected with many other people who class themselves as an empath, and time and again I have heard people tell me how they have also attracted relationships with narcissists. There is a link. So, I decided to explore it further.

For a detailed explanation of both the narcissist and empathy personality types, please click here and here.

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