How a Parent’s Narcissistic Personality Disorder Affects Their Child
Narcissistic Parent Checklist: Signs of Being Raised by a NPD
Children of NPD parents blame themselves. Instead of blaming the parent, a loving child might take on the responsibility for the negativity and sacrifice their self esteem. They begin to believe it’s their own fault their parent does not love them, or they hold out hope that by changing themselves, they might earn their parent’s love.
They feel invisible. These children may have no sense of themselves or what they want or need. The parent’s grandiosity eclipsed the child so completely that it resulted in a person who has no idea who they really are as an individual.
They become so acclimated to narcissism they may either choose narcissistic relationships or avoid relationships entirely. The neglect, abuse, rage, lack of empathy, and emotional games can be so overwhelming they can make a child grow to expect that kind of treatment in all their relationships, develop insecure attachments, or to distrust people and abandon emotional intimacy altogether.
Narcissism breeds codependency, care-taking, low self esteem, guilt, or more narcissism. These children often adapt by either erasing themselves, sacrificing their own needs, developing PTSD, or joining the ‘winning’ side and becoming narcissists themselves.