3. Lack empathy.
Narcissists are unable to recognize or identify with the needs of others. That is, they are unable to put themselves into “someone else’s shoes.” My soon to be ex knew how to feign empathy because he could pretend to care but, in reality, he never reflected on anything nor provided genuine support during difficult times. He would later, after pretending to listen and be empathetic, use situations against me when we were in some sort of argument. Now that we are going through this horrible divorce process, he doesn’t even bother to feign empathy.